June 27th, 2009

cat - sosad

Ralph Cook

When I was a kid we had this family friend, Ralph. Ralph was a pothead of massive proportions, and I always had a major crush on him. He was a flake and a perpetual teenager, even when he was in his thirties and forties, and a really, really nice guy.

When I got older, he and I had a fling that lasted about a year.. here's some TMI: He was the first man I slept with who, ya know, sent me over the edge, to put it politely. He was also the first man I ever fell in love with. I don't think the two were related, it just happened that way.

I just found out from another old family friend, Aaron, that Ralph died about seven years ago from a drug overdose.

I'm in tears.
misc - fluffy

For Ralph

A pot bellied scar faced
Peter Pan
tooling down the street in
a Lost Boys Ford truck
Got your CB on and Meat Loaf
booming from the speakers
and that devil may care grin
plastered on your face.

Eternal child with a
joint hanging from your fingertips
or one being rolled
in your oh so gentle hands.

Lost Boy
you never grew up
sought nirvana in a cloud
of smoke billowing around
your curly hair.

You taught a girl to love
Oh so well
and when the time came to part
it was with good thoughts
and good feelings
and no pain.

Whatever happened to you
Peter Pan
to my

You were a Lost Boy.

Now you've found your way home.
family - kids 2006

Kids and chores

The house has been clean for over two weeks.

Don't get me wrong, I don't mean sterile. It's still fairly cluttery. But the floors are clean, the table is clean, the bathroom is clean, the dishes are always washed. The kids' bedroom doesn't remind me of the aftermath of Katrina.

How has this miracle occurred?

A stroke of freaking brilliance on my part.

Two weeks ago, I changed the kids chores around. I made each kid responsible for one room. Sean cleans the kids' room. Ian handles kitchen and dishes. Evan is in charge of the living room. Whoever is currently in the dog house (with three boys, one ALWAYS is!) takes care of the bathroom, including scooping the cat litter.

Every day from noon to four they get to use the computers and the Wii. But they can't start until EVERYBODY's chores are completed to my satisfaction. I told them that it would behoove ALL of them to help each other out so that they could get started goofing off as close to noon as possible.

So far they've only had late starts twice, about fifteen minutes each time. Today Sean helped Ian out with the dishes. The other day Evan helped Sean with the bathroom. Ian doesn't generally have time to help his brothers out because the kitchen is a BIG job, since it involves the dishes, and five people use a LOT of dishes over the course of a day.

It's been PEACEFUL, too.

I am really pleased. And the boys tell me they like the way the house looks and feels. It's nice not to be embarrassed when somebody knocks on the door! :)