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It's almost like there are these periods where our relationship is smooth and steady, and then there are times when it's like standing on the edge of this gorgeous, wonderful waterfall and just letting yourself drop, knowing that there's a safe pool of water ready to catch you at bottom. You take the plunge and you're in wayyyy over your head, but oh man, it's exhilarating, it's breathtaking, it's just incredible and you feel better than you ever have before and the water is cool and refreshing and exactly what you needed.

Sam is my waterfall.

- LJ entry from 8/2005


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Why my kids will NOT play team sports


Older players on a high school football team anally gang raped a bunch of freshman players with broomsticks at a training camp the other day.

And the superintendant of the school is calling this "hazing" and "bullying".

Hazing and bullying. Bullying and hazing. Repeated over and over again. Not one mention of sexual assault or rape in the entire article that I noticed.

And the perps?

Still walking around. One was expelled, some were suspended. Nobody has been arrested or charged.

And where were the adults?

Well, one walked in and saw a kid spread eagled on the floor with another student standing over him with a broom and told them to "cut it out".

Another, when made aware that this was going on, asked them as a group if anybody had been "violated". One 15 year old boy raised his hand, the older students started cracking jokes, and the "adult" assumed the admission of the victim was a joke and ended the session.

"School officials did not immediately notify authorities because they were not sure what had happened."

"This was a very violent, very serious form of bullying," the superintendent said.

PLEASE! It's not bullying, toerag. It's RAPE. Get it through your head.

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I am PRAISING my weak body that prevented me from playing sports right now D:
Who would have thought being pushed into lockers and having gum spit in my hair would have been one of the more pleasent high school experiences?!

I have a good idea what would have happened at DHS if something like that had occurred. There would no longer have been an "older team". No questions, just expelled from school and then into the judicial system.

Frankly, it doesn't surprise me. I knew guys who played junior football and junior hockey. And for some reason, I was one of those people everyone opened up to. The stories I heard... Gah.

In my high school that would've resulted in an IMMEDIATE call to the police and expulsion from the school.

Bullying? BULLYING??? How in the HELL does RAPE = 'bullying'????? As someone who has survived rape, I can tell you there's a difference so huge in the 2 terms that it can't be measured.

I hope to all that's holy that the kids who were raped get the mental and emotional help and support they need.

Alas, there are a huge number of people who seem to think that only women can be raped. And that it requires penetration by a penis.

I'm quite aware. *head desk*

I just don't understand that mentality, ya know?

I understand how they can think that. It's one of those "simple" concepts in my head that is a royal pain to render into English (and that sort of thing is how I know that I don't think in English)

But basically, they've got a "symbol" in their head for "rape" and the defining conditions for it include "victim is female" and "requires penetration by a penis". They probably even wouldn't consider forced oral to bre rape.

We all have the concepts in our heads "defined by a series of "boundary conditions" (look up how neural nets identify things).

The problem is when we get the boundaries wrong, the very nature of neural nets means that if we get them wrong in certain ways (the order in which we were exposed to the examples we used to create the boundaries is important, among other things) it can be almost impossible to correct them even with lots of new examples.

I'm prefacing this by saying straight off that I'm not trying to be a bitch or superior or anything. Just pointing out what the people who called this mess "bullying" should already know. So I'm very very sorry if I come across as a raging evil bitch from hell.

Rape as defined by www.thefreedictionary.com:

rape 1 (rp) n.
1. The crime of forcing another person to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse.
2. The act of seizing and carrying off by force; abduction.
3. Abusive or improper treatment; violation: a rape of justice.

tr. v. raped, rap·ing, rapes
1. To force (another person) to submit to sex acts, especially sexual intercourse; commit rape on.
2. To seize and carry off by force.
3. To plunder or pillage.

[Middle English, from rapen, to rape, from Old French raper, to abduct, from Latin rapere, to seize; see rep- in Indo-European roots.]

There is nothing in there about the gender of the victim or penial penetration.

Also, I'm more than positive that my definition of rape is pretty braod considering I was 13 and it was brutal.

It's not a "team sports" thing. It's *culture* thing.

Some schools don't have that sort of culture among the kids who go for sports. Some have it among kids who aren't interested in sports.

And while this *was* rape, it was also due to a "bullying is ok" culture among the kids.

I agree with the commenter above that it's a culture thing. It's not the sport's fault, but the fault of the school that elevates sports above all else in its curriculum. This incident pisses me off, but don't let it blind you to the benefits of team sports. (Also, you never hear about this sort of thing happening with baseball teams.)