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It's almost like there are these periods where our relationship is smooth and steady, and then there are times when it's like standing on the edge of this gorgeous, wonderful waterfall and just letting yourself drop, knowing that there's a safe pool of water ready to catch you at bottom. You take the plunge and you're in wayyyy over your head, but oh man, it's exhilarating, it's breathtaking, it's just incredible and you feel better than you ever have before and the water is cool and refreshing and exactly what you needed.

Sam is my waterfall.

- LJ entry from 8/2005


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People are cruel

Sam and I went to Walmart tonight.

While we were in the checkout line, I realized I needed to go to the rest room, so I rolled off to do so.

Sitting on a bench close to the bathrooms was a young man who was (quite clearly) pretty profoundly developmentally disabled. He was sitting there with this huge smile on his face, and one finger up his nose.

Walking just in front of me were three very pretty college aged girls. This young man waved to them and said something that was probably a greeting, but his speech was very hard to comprehend. He continued smiling and picking his nose as he waved and spoke.

These girls busted up laughing, and started chanting at the young man: "EAT IT! EAT IT! WHY DONCHA EAT IT?" Then they walked on. The young man's face went from a smile to tears. Lovely girls on the outside. Ugly as sin on the inside.

I didn't know what to do. But I kept following them, as the bathroom was still coming up.

Just before I went in, one of the girls mimed sticking her finger up her nose and spoke in gibberish, and they all started giggling again.

At this point, I was done. I spoke up.

"You know, that guy can't help that he's mentally challenged. But you can help that you're cruel, unkind people. I'm sure your mothers are proud of you."

With that, I rolled into the bathroom as the girls turned and gaped at me.

I'm sure they had plenty of giggles over the fat cripple who dared to call them on their behavior, but I don't care. I'm a big girl and can defend myself.

But why pick on some poor guy who CAN'T defend himself?

Sometimes I hate people.

And I should have tried to comfort that young man, and to my shame, I didn't.

Borderline symptom of the day: angryangry

I would've had a huge flaming hissy fit internally while calling them out verbally externally.

Good on you for saying something!


I hope it made them think.

as the mother of a boy who would must certainly be "one of those kids" who sits on a bench smiling with his finger up his nose, I just wanted to say BRAVO for standing up for him. There is no excuse for intentional cruelty and I think it should be called out each and every time.

Those girls may not care today but life is long and so are memories. I guarantee you this experience will eventually haunt them.

people suck!

I'm not sure confort was a possibility, though caring was. :/

Good for you. It is a shame their mothers couldn't have taught them manners, at the very least.

If you pick on someone who can defend themselves...

...they might beat you.

An' where'z the fun in that? Right? Right???


On a personal note, I wonder at what point does harassment become criminal, and when the victim is developmentally disabled, does that threshold for criminal harassment change?

Good point. In the case of a nonverbal person with developmental disabilities is it only harrassement when it bothers someone else? Because that person certainly cannot say he was harrassed. This boy indicated sadness, surely. Criminal? probably not, unless it was done repeatedly. I mean,if they followed him out to the car, then followed him home for the purpose of making fun and making him cry, sure--criminal harrassment. But being a butt-head on an irregular basis with no particular victim in mind, prolly not.

If I had a dollar for every asshole who has said something nasty about Christian within my hearing range...we can't spend our energy on that or else we let the jackasses win, ya know?


As the mother of a mentally handicapped daughter, I thank you. If more people would speak up when they witness this kind of behavior, maybe it would stop. Let's hope what you said to those girls will make them think twice before acting that way in the future. In any case, you did the right thing.