I went to the DMV today to get a new ID card, as my old one from California is expired and I have to fly to CA at the end of May for Amy's HS graduation ceremony. While there, I asked the woman behind the counter what I needed to do to change my name back to my maiden name and lose the name "Orr" which has been like a millstone around my neck for too long now. She said I just needed to ask, as my maiden name belongs to me legally via my birth certificate. So I asked.
Sam and I are working on what ails our family. Cannot let a fucked up teenager win on this one. He's got two years until he can move out, while Sam and I have a lifetime we don't want to give up if we don't have to. More on this later after I sort out exactly what's going on.
But I have my real name back. Hallelujah. I feel like celebrating that. It's a good name, Thomas is.