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Jennifer E. Thomas
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It's almost like there are these periods where our relationship is smooth and steady, and then there are times when it's like standing on the edge of this gorgeous, wonderful waterfall and just letting yourself drop, knowing that there's a safe pool of water ready to catch you at bottom. You take the plunge and you're in wayyyy over your head, but oh man, it's exhilarating, it's breathtaking, it's just incredible and you feel better than you ever have before and the water is cool and refreshing and exactly what you needed.

Sam is my waterfall.

- LJ entry from 8/2005


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Loss, life, and doing what you can

A member of our church passed away this morning. I never really had the chance to know Betty, as she was already quite old and mostly bedridden by the time Sam and I joined Ponder UMC, but her daughter in law is a friend of mine, and I've been praying for Betty for ages now.

Today was Betty and Bud's 56th anniversary, and I find this tragic. A day this man should be able to remember with joy is now the day that he lost the most important person in his life. I worry about Bud, I don't know how long he will hang on now that he's lost his beloved wife.

Death is a hard thing. As a Christian, I find dichotomy to be confusing. On the one hand, somebody is gone from this life, never to return. On the other hand, that person has gone home to Jesus and has received the ultimate healing. To grieve? Or to rejoice? It's confusing.

For Betty, I choose to rejoice. She was ready, very ready, to go. For Bud, and her children and grandchildren, I grieve. They will miss her so!

Recently I volunteered to be the person who calls the members of our church who do not have email when there are prayer needs and church news to pass along. I've called on prayer needs before, but this was the first death I've had to hand along.

While doing the calls, for the first time I realized just how important this ministry is, keeping our church family connected and in the know. And for the first time I received a prayer request from one of the people on the phone list which I passed forward as I made the rest of my calls.

The body of Christ is the church, and all parts of it need to be connected and communicating. Otherwise, some of it withers, some of it atrophies, some of it can just fall off without even being noticed.

To quote the Blues Brothers

I'm on a mission from God.

Rest easy, Betty. You're home now.

Borderline symptom of the day: peacefulpeaceful

May Light perpetual shine upon her and grant her peace. May her family find comfort in their faith.

My prayers are with them.


I recall you being wonderfully supportive after my brother died. And you were the one person who hugged me sincerely and didn't make me have the urge to slug.

I was also conflicted. I dislike hearing someone tell me, "well it was his time. God has called him home." It makes me angry. I reply, "well, I'm sorry, maybe I am not a good Christian, because I am selfish. I want him here with me on earth." And with all the horrid people doing evil things on this planet, we coulda used another good guy on our 'side'.

But in the meantime, hugs & love to ya, JennJenn.

I agree, inappropriate. I got this constantly when i lost my baby-"It's for the best", "You have a little angel waiting in heaven" and the worst was "The baby was probably deformed." sheesh! what idiot says that? I wanted to scream "I don't want God to take care of my baby, *I* want to take care of my baby~" You know, it's been 19 years and it still feels like yesterday sometimes.

I remember when your brother passed. I remember answering the phone and hearing you crying because your heart had broken, and feeling so helpless.

I love you so much, Lisa :)

While we certainly rejoice when a soul goes to heaven, I think it's perfectly normal to grieve when someone dies. Jesus grieved for his friend Lazurus, after all. And he grieved for himself in Gethsemane. We *should* grieve with friends when their loved ones die; it helps them process the event when people act normally instead of acting happy about it. I mean, they *know* their loved one is better off out of pain and distress(if it was long illness), but they still feel sad for their loss and the fact that their former life is now overturned. And multiply that exponentially if it was the death of a child or a young person, or an unexpected or violent death.
You sound like a very good friend. Sometimes when people die the only thing you want to do is talk about them. And talk and talk some more. So maybe what her husband needs most is a listening ear.

in my experience, we grieve for *ourselves*, for *our* loss - and it is a loss, to never see that person in this life again. i don't find a dichotomy.
erm; but i am very strange.

may i ask what the prayer request was? different religion, sure, but God is Goddess is God - i will gladly add another person to my prayers. [i already pray for you and Sam and the boys :) ]