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It's almost like there are these periods where our relationship is smooth and steady, and then there are times when it's like standing on the edge of this gorgeous, wonderful waterfall and just letting yourself drop, knowing that there's a safe pool of water ready to catch you at bottom. You take the plunge and you're in wayyyy over your head, but oh man, it's exhilarating, it's breathtaking, it's just incredible and you feel better than you ever have before and the water is cool and refreshing and exactly what you needed.

Sam is my waterfall.

- LJ entry from 8/2005


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Kids and chores and lack thereof

The last month or so the kids have been slacking in a big way.

We have a rule in this house. When you get home from school you do three things before you play, get on the computer, read a book, take a nap, walk to the park, whatever. These things are your chores, your daily shower, and your homework.

Lately they've been "forgetting" to shower (frequently, even with reminders), failing to do their chores, and getting extremely poor marks in their homework (but still scoring 100s in tests and classwork. To me this signifies slacking on the homework.)

Today Sam and I tried a little test. When they walked in we said: do not forget to do your chores, showers, and homework. Do you all understand?

Yesses all around.

Fifteen minutes later, I laid on a heavy reminder: Make sure you get your responsibilities taken care of or you won't like the consequences.

End result? Half of one chore got done. Two showers got taken. One person claimed to have completed his homework.

Ultimate end result?

Had the boys done as they were told, they would be going to see Avatar in 3D tonight at the Movie Tavern. As it stands, they will not be seeing it in the theater.

Their reaction? If we had known we would have DONE it.

Our response? You shouldn't have to have the promise of a reward to do what you've been told to do.

They can see it when it comes out on DVD, if Sam and I like it enough tonight when WE go, without kids, to consider it worth buying. Not on the big screen. Not in 3D. And not with popcorn and hot dogs and soda and jujubes.

Maybe they will have learned something from this. My guess is they won't.

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Borderline symptom of the day: disappointeddisappointed

Maybe they will have learned something from this. My guess is they won't.

Unfortunately, probably not. Kids don't think the way adults do. They just aren't wired to. All the boys are likely thinking right now is how mean you and Sam are being for "doing this to them" so to speak. You and I know they did it to themselves but THEY don't think that way.

Mr Leaf says Avatar is excellent. Enjoy!


except that isn't true, really - i did my chores a majority [high majority] of the time - where there were issues, was my *sisters'* chores, for whatever dumb-ass reason, from the time i was 13, *I* was responsible for making my two sisters [at the time, 10 and 7] do their chores, but i was given ZERO authority to back it up, and every. time. they didn't do something, *I* was punished.

sigh. it just frustrates me when teens are silly like this. you do the dishes [or whatever] because it needs to be done. and it's your job.
heh - when i had custody of my sister when she was 16 and 17, i was forever saying "if you don't want to wash the dishes, cook dinner. if you don't want to fold the clothes, vacuum the floor. and if you don't want to do *any* housework, get a job and hire a maid."
i never washed her laundry - a thing that shocked her senseless the first time she said "i don't have any clean clothes". i said "huh. maybe you should wash some?" and she was like "but i want clean clothes!"
she wore dirty clothes until she washed them. :)

with multiple teens, i imagine it's a LOT harder. they goad each other on, and can blame each other, etc.
every time you post about the boys - EVERY. TIME. the FIRST thing i think is "HOW DOES SHE DO IT!?!?!?" then i muse on whether you are a wizard or just scarey :)

*hugs* eventually they grow up. or, at least, move out lol

Scary. Definitely scary. :)

They're great kids, just.. ugh. Teenagers.

I can't WAIT until they're parents and come complaining to me about their own misbehaving teens. I will laugh SO hard!

oh, yeah - THAT'S the Golden Moment, all right :)

but they do sound like good kids - and you're great. :) so when you get to laugh at them, i'm pretty sure they'll laugh with you :)